Want to Impress a Woman? Do This.

Here’s the thing about me: I’m an excellent insider source on what women like and how to please a woman—especially when it comes to dating and relationships.

As it turns out, an adult life full of dating comes with other benefits.

And even if I am alone, I am a generous person, because I have decided to spend the beans on what you can do – amazing, thoughtful, well-dressed who wants to stand out in love, life and work that you are there to please a woman like me. So! SG is here to share ten proven tips for making a memorable first impression (or sparking a long-burning spark!).

10 tips on how to please a woman:

1. MAKE ME LAUGH… AND YOU.

Classic advice with a twist, right?

Lots of guys can tell a funny story, but if it’s a story or a moment that makes you laugh, too? Even better. You don’t need to be the most arrogant guy in the world (you get old, fast) but you just have to be willing to be in on the joke.

Men and women feel the same way about the tension between confidence and modesty—especially when it comes to telling stories and jokes.

We all want to relateagainThey seem impressive, so finding that balance through humor is key.

2. PLEASE GO THE EXTRA MILE WITH YOUR MIND.

Time to hit you hard and fast with some statistics: 100% of women notice when a guy makes an effort with his outfit.

It’s just science!

The good news is, you’re already in ol’ Ujo Shop, which means you can go through the archives before your next big date. Start here. And then maybe this? Oh, don’t miss this.

You get what I mean.

3. ANCIENT WOMEN.

My last boyfriend used to open the car door for me every time we drove anywhere. It was a small act but I can tell you every time he did it—we dated for half a year—I got butterflies.

Old school routines seem to be fading these days, so take advantage of these small opportunities to differentiate yourself.

Hold the door open and walk on the side of the road. Go down the stairs in front of him and up the stairs behind him (in case he falls). Help him with his jacket at any end of the day, and pull up his chair before he sits down.

And of course, this behavior doesn’t have to feed into toxic masculinity if you don’t allow it. Paying for dinner doesn’t mean you owe anything!

Instead, consider actions like these as one way to show that you are close to him, such as nodding and making eye contact as he tells a story, or sharing your feelings in a vulnerable way.

The bottom line? Physical displays of good manners are very attractive, and make a woman feel valued and special.

4. RECOMMEND SOMETHING I HAVE NEVER TRIED, SEEN, HEARD OR VISIT.

One of the best first dates I’ve ever had ended with me and the boy going through Spotify playlists and naming our new favorite songs.

I gained a bunch of new favorite musicians that night, and we both got to peek into each other’s private lives. (Your favorite music says a lot about you, trust me!)

Youit can betry this trick with restaurants, but be careful of sounding pretentious. I have learnedInfatuationI get it.

Unless you want to take him away from the bar just becauseyou haveto try this late-night soup dump—save the restaurant conversation for the next time you ask her out. (Show, don’t tell.)

But travel destinations, movies and TV?Those things are always more fun to talk about.

5. LET YOUR VULNERABILITY SHOW A LITTLE.

First dates can be a bit old. Going through the same introductions over and over again gets boring, and can quickly reduce any chance of a spark.

The easiest way to convert from basic coverage to underground? One simple tool: A follow-up question.

Here is an example:

You: How many siblings do you have?

Your Date: Two—elder brother and younger sister.

You: Oh wow, are you close to them?

On the face of it, this looks like a way to make him vulnerable—and it is.

But by being the first to ask a question that involves thought and emotional reflection, you invite them to do the same, creating an atmosphere of openness and trust.

If youbothAllow yourself to share something real, something you can’t point to on a map or type on a business card, showing your date that you’re an emotionally intelligent person worth knowing more about.

It’s worth pointing out here that pleasing someone in love goes both ways—you shouldn’t feel like all the pressure is on you.

Women always do little things to try and impress you.

6. WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKING AT TEXTS, YOU MUST DO ASK.

Here’s the part where I unfortunately have to put a certain guy first. He had everything going for him, and I was completely blown away.

However, whenever he sent me a text message (which was often, like, several times a day in the beginning of our relationship) it was just to “say” something.

Either there was a story he was telling about himself or a random statement. I wanted attention—until I realized that I wasn’t actually the one getting attention.

By posting these texts he was drawing me into a one-sided conversation. I would interview him for answers, ask him for details and laugh—in fact, I was flexing his ego when he wanted to.

Yes, he is funny. Sorry you don’t feel well. Nice story about your cousin.

Guys, all you have to do to win a woman is already at least aslowlyA little bit of you to ask his questions.(See the bit about vulnerability above.)

It comes naturally during a personal conversation, but it’s no use pretending these days that texting doesn’t play into the rest of the relationship.

Again, this is advice that can go both ways, you should be giving as much as you get when it comes to communication.

7. BRING HER FLOWERS.

Okay so I may come off as a hopeless romantic, but I can’t even tell you what a wonderful gesture it is to buy a woman flowers.

In all my years, a man has brought me twice as many flowers.

First time? When I was asked to announce.

The second time was when an old flame visited New York and picked me up at my door to go out for a walk and a drink.

I told him I would meet him downstairs outside my house, but he insisted on going upstairs because he had “something” for me. It was a simple bunch of daisies and I wasdown.

Needless to say, it was probably the best $7 he spent all weekend. (Click, wave.)

8. STANDARDS YOUR FITNESS.

I once loved a man with a strong, masculine beard.When he stopped cutting it toward the end of our relationship—after I expressed that I liked it better—I realized he was using it for body positioning.againthe mental distance between us. By ignorance or otherwise, who knows?

But the bottom line?A little care goes a long way.And you notice if you take care of your appearance when you don’t.

9. LOOK FOR INSIDE JOKE OPPORTUNITIES.

With one boy, we had a secret emoji language, so texting took an extra (and totally playful) level.

Another beauty and I share an obsession with Swedish Fish. We used to send them to each other via snail mail across the ocean when one of us was studying abroad in college.)

Inside jokes are a strong way to build rapport before you get close to someone at a distance.

They help establish a connection that goes beyond all those initial dating questions that feel like a conversation, and, at least for me, it’s a sign that I can actually feel comfortable around a new guy.

10. EXPLORE THE LEARNING TRIFECTA. ™

SoThe Learning Trifecta ™it’s something I really havejustit was built while I was writing this, but the more I thought about it, the more I started congratulating myself on being a gd master.

TLTas we will call it, it is simple, and can be used over time and at any time in the relationship. Three points ofTLTit can be distributed in any way, and repeated as many times as you like until you and I, dear, are dead on the ground. They are as follows:

• Teach Me Something. (I’ve always wanted to be able to drive a stick shift.)

• Let Me Teach You Something. (You, me, ski slopes? It’ll be fun, I promise.)

• Let’s Learn Something Together. (Pasta-making class, anyone?)

In my opinion, to useTLTPleasing a woman is a way not only to establish intimacy and trust early on, but also a fun way to keep things interesting and spicy long after you’ve ignited the spark.

So there you have it, ten—relatively easy!—ways to please a woman. Remember, with great power comes great responsibility: so use these tips wisely…and only for good.